Reading Julie's piece made me think about that argument with Stuff in Tunesia, which was immensely instructive to me. I think Stuff felt happy in a country that he believed to be inhabited by gay men. And in a way he was right about the nature of Tunesian society. Although most Tunesian men are not gay in the usual defintion of the word "gay", they are indeed more loving, more physical, and more social with other men than men in Europe. Tunesia seems more male friendly and thus easier for a gay man to live in. I was wrong to think only of the definition of "gay" that I know and not of the deeper feelings of these men. Tunesia is only one of the countries Stuff and I ran away to to live "forever", but "forever" was rather short because we can't get it right in our friendship. I wonder, Julie, how would you feel in a society where the majority of people were transitioning sexual identity? Or in a society where females with dicks were the majority? Would you surgery yourself then?