A Darel, on "Tough Love"

A Darel, on "Tough Love"
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Posted by: DWA
08/06/2005, 12:16:08

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How would one recognise that some "tough love", as opposed to pure flattery, or even malice, is being practised at a discussion forum?

I cast my vote for more tough love, and less flattery or pure partisan malice at TT. How am I doing?

Sugar-coated answers preferred, of course. '-))

http://www.richbits.com/relate/Tough_love.html

"Tough love is saying no when the yes would be much easier, but would make the child or other person more of a dependant.

Tough Love is non-manipulative and unconditional

Tough Love offers empathy, but not sympathy

Tough Love is non-supportive of victim stories

Tough Love offers support and courage, but not help

Tough love encourages strength not weakness

Tough love doesn't worry that you might make a mistake

In fact, tough love encourages free choice and the learning that comes from making mistakes.

Tough love opts for your growth in consciousness

Tough love says, "If you eat crackers in bed; sleep you must sleep with the crumbs."

Tough love knows that you must learn how to lose before you can win.

Tough love knows that security is in letting go, not in hanging on.

Tough Love is the courage to say "No" when "Yes" would spoil the child

Tough love knows that help freely given can create dependency

Tough Love demands responsible behavior

Tough Love doesn't do for them what they can do for themselves

Tough Love expects cooperation and courteous behavior

Tough Love respects their rights and command the respect of others "

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Re: A Darel, on "Tough Love" --- skeptic-D ( 07-08-2005 ) ( 943 bytes ) +1
- Thanks for your thoughts --- DWA ( 07-08-2005 ) ( 2001 bytes ) +1
  - Re: Thanks for your thoughts --- skeptic-D ( 10-08-2005 ) ( 2474 bytes )
You can't practice tough love . . . . --- Julie D. ( 07-08-2005 ) ( 1027 bytes ) +3
- Possibly true, JulieD --- DWA ( 07-08-2005 ) ( 2203 bytes ) +1
  - More then possibly --- skibummer ( 08-08-2005 ) ( 1192 bytes ) +1
    - Give up your childish ways, Skibummer --- DWA ( 08-08-2005 ) ( 335 bytes ) +1
      - I thought you were renouncing silly games --- Crossbowman ( 09-08-2005 ) ( 390 bytes ) +1
        
        I bring out the whip for censors+ --- DWA ( 09-08-2005 ) ( 2161 bytes ) +2
        
        I take no offense --- Crossbowman ( 10-08-2005 ) ( 829 bytes ) +1
        
        I envy your Sang Froid --- DWA ( 10-08-2005 ) ( 803 bytes ) link
        
        Quick correction --- skibummer ( 10-08-2005 ) ( 932 bytes )
- Re: You can't practice tough love . . . . --- skeptic-D ( 08-08-2005 ) ( 2989 bytes ) +1
  - Boot camp tough love objectives --- DWA ( 08-08-2005 ) ( 788 bytes ) +1
    - Re: Boot camp tough love objectives --- skeptic-D ( 08-08-2005 ) ( 4857 bytes ) +2
      - As the twig is bent/deformed...+ --- DWA ( 08-08-2005 ) ( 1529 bytes ) +2
        
        Re: As the twig is bent/deformed...+ --- skeptic-D ( 08-08-2005 ) ( 3618 bytes ) +1
        
        I hear tires spinning in the mud --- DWA ( 08-08-2005 ) ( 920 bytes ) +1
        
        Re: I hear tires spinning in the mud --- skeptic-D ( 09-08-2005 ) ( 1424 bytes )
        
        What the military's boot camp really does... --- Crossbowman ( 09-08-2005 ) ( 1289 bytes ) +2
        
        Re: What the military's boot camp really does..and don't do!. --- skeptic-D ( 09-08-2005 ) ( 1402 bytes )
        Discipline, teamwork, attention to detail --- DWA ( 09-08-2005 ) ( 1860 bytes ) +1
        
        Amend that a bit --- Crossbowman ( 10-08-2005 ) ( 2364 bytes ) +1
        
        Freeway combat and Pavlov's dog salivating --- DWA ( 10-08-2005 ) ( 1264 bytes )
      - Umm... --- Crossbowman ( 09-08-2005 ) ( 2183 bytes )
- In fairness... --- Crossbowman ( 09-08-2005 ) ( 44 bytes ) +1
  - Re: In fairness... --- skeptic-D ( 09-08-2005 ) ( 760 bytes )